October’s Monthly Message

Autumn is settling in—the days are growing shorter, and the nights longer. In the animal kingdom, this is the time for preparing to hibernate, and we humans aren’t so different. We tend to go out less, seek comfort in familiar routines, and settle into a slower pace. That’s perfectly natural. But just as the seasons change, so do the opportunities around us. As I often say to my clients: Use the waves that are presented to you—why go against the current?

Now, onto this month’s theme: beliefs and values.

We all admire people with strong beliefs, values, and integrity—and rightly so. But what happens when those beliefs and values become so rigid that they limit our ability to grow?

Our values are like blueprints for how we live our lives. Many of them are passed down to us, or shaped by our life experiences. But just because something was true or useful in the past, does it still need to be today?

Sometimes, we hold onto beliefs so tightly that we don’t realise how much they’re keeping us stuck. What feels like stability may actually be preventing us from evolving. Often, we resist change because we see it as unsettling, but in reality, change is the very thing that opens us up to new possibilities.

This month, ask yourself: Are the beliefs guiding my actions helping me grow, or are they keeping me stuck in place? Could some of the perspectives I hold be quietly working against my true desires, stopping me from moving forward?

Our most rigid beliefs can often become tools for avoiding discomfort. We convince ourselves that they’re protecting us, when in fact, they’re preventing the growth we need most.

Let’s play a game this month. Step outside your comfort zone and loosen up your perspectives—just as an experiment. Try something new, something you wouldn’t normally do. For instance, when did you last buy a different pair of shoes, just for the experience? Even a small shift in how we approach life can lead to unexpected growth. Let’s see what happens when we stop holding on so tightly to what we think is right.

I leave you with that to ponder.

Until next month xx